DEAR ABBY: My father passed away a few months ago. My brother lives out of state, so emptying the house was mine. Shortly after the funeral, my adult son (the only grandchild) arrived and loaded his car with all toilet paper, paper towels, light bulbs, cleaning supplies, etc. He did it without asking, so I quickly had the locks changed. When I asked him, he said, “Grandpa doesn’t need that stuff anymore.
After months of packing (by myself) we are now down to furniture and my son wants it all. He feels that there is a right. Rather than picking out one or two pieces, he’s “give me, give me, give me” and sees nothing wrong with that attitude. I didn’t raise him like that, but he’s like that now. What should I do? – GOURMET OF THE WEST
DEAR GOURMET: Although at this point it is a bit late, what you should do is finally say NO. Unless your father expressly stated – in writing – that your son should get everything, what he did is considered theft.
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DEAR ABBY: What happens to men between 45 and 60 years old? It seems the women they are looking for are all 15 to 20 years younger. I’m not just talking about sex, but also dating, love and marriage.
We middle aged women are often overlooked because these middle aged men don’t realize that we are in our sexual prime and often hot as hell. And we participate in many interesting and rewarding activities. By the time these men come to their senses, they are usually stranded and helpless. Why are nature and society so cruel and unjust? How can I, as a sexy and active middle aged woman, beat the odds? I don’t plan on being single and single for the rest of my life. – ALWAYS FUN IN THE SOUTH
DEAR STILL FUN: You can’t change other people, but you can change the way you react to them. One way to “beat the odds” would be to stop focusing only on middle-aged men and consider dating slightly younger men who appreciate what you have to offer. Even if it doesn’t lead to marriage, you could have some fun while you wait.
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DEAR ABBY: We have a friend who often comes to us for advice, but never seems to take it. She always makes the same mistake. How to reach her? – FRIENDS WHO CARE IN UTAH
DEAR FRIENDS: Frankly ? Know that you can’t reach her because she isn’t really looking for advice. Rather than listen, she evacuates. Because of friendship, listen when it “throws”, but avoid offering wisdom that you know will be ignored.
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles